Mrs Hari and her family, current experience | India

Mrs Hari and her family, current experience | India

03 Mar 2022

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Mrs Hari, 68, lives in a remote coastal village 200 km away from the closest town. Mrs Hari and her husband live in a joint family of eleven, which consists of their two sons and their respective wives and children. The eldest grandchild is the first person from the family to go to college and lives in a hostel in a city. Mrs Hari comes from a long line of fishing families. All the men are local fishermen; in the off-season the family works on harvesting crops on their small farmland. Mrs Hari has always been active, strong-willed head of the household. Over the past year, she has been having memory problems, but this has remained unrecognized by the family. Recently, the family has observed changes in her behavior and personality, which has caused concern.

The daughter-in-laws have observed that she keeps forgetting the names of close relatives and is unable to carry out her daily chores. Mrs Hari has also been blaming her daughters-in-law for stealing her bangles and sarees, which has caused rifts within the household. Last year, the whole family went on a pilgrimage and made offerings to the gods to help heal Mrs Hari. The family feels that it may be a result of their past sins and due to such stigma attached, this may affect the family’s social standing in the community. The daughters-in-law continue to provide basic care by occasionally helping her with daily activities such as bathing, dressing etc. Mr Hari keeps an eye on her throughout the day. He often gets agitated with his wife’s behavior and tends to lock her in her room to prevent her from wandering. Mrs Hari’s symptoms began to worsen. She does not recognize her husband or family and is reclusive often not coming out of her room. When her grandchild comes to visit from the city, he mentions that they should seek a physician. The family cannot take Mrs Hari to the nearest town for an evaluation due to distance and the indirect costs (costs due to loss of wages) involved. They are compelled to manage on their own. The two daughters-in-law each spend 5-6 hours per day to provide constant care for Mrs Hari until her death.